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"Fame is the sum of the misunderstanding that gathers about a new name." - Rainer Maria Rilke
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I've discovered NaBloPoMo through a2zmom and tempertemper77 (Thanks, guys!), and since I can't do NaNo, this sounds intriguing. :) Without a doubt, I've written less post-baby; perhaps this will get me moving in the other direction. I'm jumping in late, but I'll try to play catch-up for the days I missed.

A couple weeks ago a tabloid rag ran an article about an actor who supposedly cheated on his wife while she was pregnant with their second child. I don't read tabloids, and I don't consider them sources of accurate reporting and fact-checking. However, what I did find very interesting about the whole situation was some of the fan reaction I came across online.

Many fans insisted that the actor couldn't possibly have been unfaithful to his wife -- because he is a family man, because he is close to his parents, who are "good people," because HE is a "good man," etc. Who wants to believe that a person they admire could lie and cheat?

I am in no way claiming that the actor in question actually did cheat on his wife. But I know this: most of us don't know our favorite public figures. We admire them from a distance. We know what images they project. We know how they make us feel if they are actors or artists. We may even know when they were born, their favorite foods, and the names of their family pets.

The sum of all that still does not equal true knowledge of a person.

People we do know well and even love, may shock both us and themselves with what they can do, including being unfaithful. Standing on the outside of a relationship, we simply cannot know and understand precisely what occurs on the inside.

That holds true for our friends, relatives, and favorite celebrities.
 
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THIS. I really don't think you could pay me enough to be a public figure.

People we do know well and even love, may shock both us and themselves with what they can do, including being unfaithful. Standing on the outside of a relationship, we simply cannot know and understand precisely what occurs on the inside.

That especially hits home. We all know people who we've thought "No way!" about purported actions. Humanity is nothing if unpredictable. When will we cease to be surprised?

THIS. I really don't think you could pay me enough to be a public figure.

I know what you mean. There are perks, but they come with a definite cost. :/

People, even those we consider "good people," can do questionable things. You just never know...


Completely true. There's no way to know what's going on in someone else's relationship unless they tell you (and even then, it's their view of what's going on, not necessarily their partner's view).

Welcome to NaBloPoMo! I managed to miss the first day simply because I forgot - I'm glad I'm not officially doing it this year.

Exactly. There are at least two sides to those stories.

Thanks re: NaBloPoMo. I'm not official, either. Good thing, too, since I'm off to a shaky start. *g*

Living in a permanent glass bubble has to be the worst kind of life, imo. They get paid well (beyond well) but it's not worth the complete loss of privacy.

(That said, Alison Hannigan and Alexis Denisof appear to be the world's cutest couple and their baby is an absolute doll.)

Alison Hannigan and Alexis Denisof appear to be the world's cutest couple and their baby is an absolute doll
OT but OMG YES. The kangaroo costumes are the cutest thing. :D

The pictures of SMG and her baby are also ridiculously cute. <3

People we do know well and even love, may shock both us and themselves with what they can do, including being unfaithful. Standing on the outside of a relationship, we simply cannot know and understand precisely what occurs on the inside.

In those two sentences you have summed up perfectly the argument I have been making to my extended family and friends for 10 years. To everyone who wants to tell me what went wrong in my parents marriage and what kind of woman my mother was/is, what kind of man my father was/is. Guess what, they're mine! And I was there! You weren't! Maybe I don't know everything. Maybe I don't want to know everything. But don't try to explain to me what went wrong. I watched. I listened. I was there for it all and I've had more conversations with the two of them on the subject in the last decade than I care to even think about.

/rant.

Hi, btw. How are you today? :) lol.

Grr. I'm angry on your behalf. Sometimes people think they know it all. It is very easy to pontificate about marriage -- especially when it's not your own.

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Really. That had to have made a difficult situation even tougher. :(

I'm a little tired but fine, honey. How are you?

Who was the couple? I'm curious. Naughty me.

Okay, I gotta ask...what is NaBloPoMo? Is it a version of NaNoWriMo that's more realistic for busy peeps like you and me? Is it a mommy thing, or can anyone do it?

It's NationalBlogPostMonth... post once a day throughout November :)

My sister and I talked about something similar the other day. Tabloids are the empty calories of the news world. Once in a while they're right, or somewhat close, but mostly they are there for entertainment value. However, in this TMZ/Perez/snark-as-news-culture some people take the tabloids far too seriously.
I don't care if Katie wants $10 mill to have another kid. I didn't play "Where's Kate Hudson?" during the World Series - because, to me, that stuff isn't important. And I feel sorry for the person who does find that important.

I agree that they are there mostly for the entertainment value. Occasionally they hit the mark, like with John Edwards, his affair, and the resulting child.

As with everything else, entertainment or otherwise, different strokes for different folks. :)

I pretty much dismissed it out of hand because, hello grew up in the UK - very used to tabloid crap.

Like you said, it's unreasonable to put anyone on a pedestal and expect them to be perfect, no matter how gorgeous they are ;)

However, innocent 'til proven guilty will always be my take on anything - and that ain't proof *g*

Haha No, I wouldn't take that as proof, either. As I said in the post, I don't claim that he did have an affair with that woman. I just find it fascinating how vehemently some folks who don't even know him argued that he couldn't possibly have EVER been unfaithful -- to either his wife or ex-wife. How do they know that -- about him or any other public figure? Significant others are blindsided by affairs all the time. Shit happens.

I wish it didn't, but sometimes it does.

Do you know what my first thought was when I heard this story (admittedly it was just a few days ago)... I thought of your RPF with Emily and that I wanted you to write about Emily hearing about this rumor. How twisted is that?

My second thought was, "Meh. If it's true, it's between him and his wife. And if it's not true, what a shame someone decided to do that to them."

Either way, it's none of my business.

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