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"Fame is the sum of the misunderstanding that gathers about a new name." - Rainer Maria Rilke
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I've discovered NaBloPoMo through a2zmom and tempertemper77 (Thanks, guys!), and since I can't do NaNo, this sounds intriguing. :) Without a doubt, I've written less post-baby; perhaps this will get me moving in the other direction. I'm jumping in late, but I'll try to play catch-up for the days I missed.

A couple weeks ago a tabloid rag ran an article about an actor who supposedly cheated on his wife while she was pregnant with their second child. I don't read tabloids, and I don't consider them sources of accurate reporting and fact-checking. However, what I did find very interesting about the whole situation was some of the fan reaction I came across online.

Many fans insisted that the actor couldn't possibly have been unfaithful to his wife -- because he is a family man, because he is close to his parents, who are "good people," because HE is a "good man," etc. Who wants to believe that a person they admire could lie and cheat?

I am in no way claiming that the actor in question actually did cheat on his wife. But I know this: most of us don't know our favorite public figures. We admire them from a distance. We know what images they project. We know how they make us feel if they are actors or artists. We may even know when they were born, their favorite foods, and the names of their family pets.

The sum of all that still does not equal true knowledge of a person.

People we do know well and even love, may shock both us and themselves with what they can do, including being unfaithful. Standing on the outside of a relationship, we simply cannot know and understand precisely what occurs on the inside.

That holds true for our friends, relatives, and favorite celebrities.
 
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THIS. I really don't think you could pay me enough to be a public figure.

People we do know well and even love, may shock both us and themselves with what they can do, including being unfaithful. Standing on the outside of a relationship, we simply cannot know and understand precisely what occurs on the inside.

That especially hits home. We all know people who we've thought "No way!" about purported actions. Humanity is nothing if unpredictable. When will we cease to be surprised?

THIS. I really don't think you could pay me enough to be a public figure.

I know what you mean. There are perks, but they come with a definite cost. :/

People, even those we consider "good people," can do questionable things. You just never know...


When will we cease to be surprised?

IKR?!

(And where's my email?! *waits impatiently*)

OMG! I totally sent that yday afternoon - you didn't get it?! *freaks out & runs to check who got TMI e-mail*

Completely true. There's no way to know what's going on in someone else's relationship unless they tell you (and even then, it's their view of what's going on, not necessarily their partner's view).

Welcome to NaBloPoMo! I managed to miss the first day simply because I forgot - I'm glad I'm not officially doing it this year.

Exactly. There are at least two sides to those stories.

Thanks re: NaBloPoMo. I'm not official, either. Good thing, too, since I'm off to a shaky start. *g*

Living in a permanent glass bubble has to be the worst kind of life, imo. They get paid well (beyond well) but it's not worth the complete loss of privacy.

(That said, Alison Hannigan and Alexis Denisof appear to be the world's cutest couple and their baby is an absolute doll.)

Alison Hannigan and Alexis Denisof appear to be the world's cutest couple and their baby is an absolute doll
OT but OMG YES. The kangaroo costumes are the cutest thing. :D

The pictures of SMG and her baby are also ridiculously cute. <3

Agree about the kangaroo costumes. They all looked so snuggly. *g*

I didn't realize pics of SMG's baby had been released -- until I read your comment. After some hunting, I found them. Charlotte is a sweet-looking baby. :)

Sorry, I should've linked! ONTD had some magazine scans (People maybe?) up today. :D

Don't be sorry. How could you know I was living under a rock? *g*

OMG a REAL name too!!! SMG rawks :)

LMAO I admit I had a similar thought. :P

So rare these days!

(I wonder if she'll have play dates with Bardot some day ;)

You're right, they have no privacy. I cannot even begin to fathom what that's like. :(

Agree with you on Aly, Alexis, and Satyana. They do seem adorable, and their Halloween costumes were just too cute. :)

People we do know well and even love, may shock both us and themselves with what they can do, including being unfaithful. Standing on the outside of a relationship, we simply cannot know and understand precisely what occurs on the inside.

In those two sentences you have summed up perfectly the argument I have been making to my extended family and friends for 10 years. To everyone who wants to tell me what went wrong in my parents marriage and what kind of woman my mother was/is, what kind of man my father was/is. Guess what, they're mine! And I was there! You weren't! Maybe I don't know everything. Maybe I don't want to know everything. But don't try to explain to me what went wrong. I watched. I listened. I was there for it all and I've had more conversations with the two of them on the subject in the last decade than I care to even think about.

/rant.

Hi, btw. How are you today? :) lol.

Grr. I'm angry on your behalf. Sometimes people think they know it all. It is very easy to pontificate about marriage -- especially when it's not your own.

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Really. That had to have made a difficult situation even tougher. :(

I'm a little tired but fine, honey. How are you?

Yep. It'd be so nice if the people in glass houses rule really applied in the real world. Unfortunately, the real world usually requires you to keep your trap shut. heh.

It certainly didn't make these easier, but eventually you realize that no one else is ever going to get it. Especially when half the time it makes so little sense to you, you know?

Much of the same. Ready for this semester to be over.

*hugs you* Hang in there, sweetie. And again, I'm sorry. I wish children didn't caught up in their parents' situations; it's tragic that they do.

*hugs back* I've survived so far, and there's every indication that I shall continue to. There are just some days where it all really bugs me, that's all. That's life, though, I suppose *shrugs* heh.

Who was the couple? I'm curious. Naughty me.

a_mistletoe is correct; the story was about David Boreanaz.

Wow. I really am out of it. I never heard a word about this, and I don't go to the grocery store each week, so I must have missed seeing that mag in the checkout line.

I don't know whether he did or didn't. I wonder about the logistics of living in LA, shooting a series in LA and carrying on with someone in NYC, but there are flights to and fro all day long every day. That's the only hole I see.

That being said, if he did do that, he's pretty naive and unaware of his celebrity if he thought he could keep it a secret. I hope he didn't because that would be such a terrible thing for his wife to have to endure. If he did, shame on him!

I'll still watch Bones because I know he's not Booth, and I know that the David I met at a fan event isn't him either. :shrugs:

I secretly hope it's not true. If it is, I really hope his wife gave him a swift kick and a punch in the nose, and then I hope they are able work things out from here on, if they so choose.

Okay, I gotta ask...what is NaBloPoMo? Is it a version of NaNoWriMo that's more realistic for busy peeps like you and me? Is it a mommy thing, or can anyone do it?

It's NationalBlogPostMonth... post once a day throughout November :)

tempertemper already answered, but NaBloPoMo stands for National Blog Posting Month, and no, it has nothing to do with being a mom. :)

My sister and I talked about something similar the other day. Tabloids are the empty calories of the news world. Once in a while they're right, or somewhat close, but mostly they are there for entertainment value. However, in this TMZ/Perez/snark-as-news-culture some people take the tabloids far too seriously.
I don't care if Katie wants $10 mill to have another kid. I didn't play "Where's Kate Hudson?" during the World Series - because, to me, that stuff isn't important. And I feel sorry for the person who does find that important.

I agree that they are there mostly for the entertainment value. Occasionally they hit the mark, like with John Edwards, his affair, and the resulting child.

As with everything else, entertainment or otherwise, different strokes for different folks. :)

I pretty much dismissed it out of hand because, hello grew up in the UK - very used to tabloid crap.

Like you said, it's unreasonable to put anyone on a pedestal and expect them to be perfect, no matter how gorgeous they are ;)

However, innocent 'til proven guilty will always be my take on anything - and that ain't proof *g*

Haha No, I wouldn't take that as proof, either. As I said in the post, I don't claim that he did have an affair with that woman. I just find it fascinating how vehemently some folks who don't even know him argued that he couldn't possibly have EVER been unfaithful -- to either his wife or ex-wife. How do they know that -- about him or any other public figure? Significant others are blindsided by affairs all the time. Shit happens.

I wish it didn't, but sometimes it does.

Oh I didn't mean to imply you did, my love.

I know. The other reaction which appalled me was: 'WTF HE CAN'T BE BECAUSE IF HE WAS HAVING AN AFFAIR IT WOULD BE WITH EMILY ;P'

Huh??!

*smooch* I know you didn't mean me, but thank you for stating it outright.

Fortunately, I missed the reaction you mentioned. People can be so wacky. Once again, I am getting old and crotchety. *g*

BTW, do you have any Lie to Me story or author recs? I am willing to just wade through the muck if need be, but I thought I'd check with you first. ;)

*mwahs*

Most of the fic at ff.net is CRAP. Hee. Though I admit I haven't delved too deeply... but there is some nice stuff at lightmanfoster. Um... aforementioned friend angeletoile is just dipping toe into world of fanfic with her love for Cal and Gillian. She has written a couple of lovely, delicate pieces.. also acolyte33 who writes a brilliantly masculine Cal :)

Edited at 2009-11-06 03:44 pm (UTC)

Do you know what my first thought was when I heard this story (admittedly it was just a few days ago)... I thought of your RPF with Emily and that I wanted you to write about Emily hearing about this rumor. How twisted is that?

My second thought was, "Meh. If it's true, it's between him and his wife. And if it's not true, what a shame someone decided to do that to them."

Either way, it's none of my business.

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