Anyone is welcome to add me as a "friend." If you like my fic and fannish minutiae, I'm flattered. However, unless you comment, I may not notice that you've added me. Please note that I don't automatically add everyone back. As I said, I sometimes post about personal/"real life" things that I am simply not comfortable with silent strangers knowing about or having show up on Google searches. If we have some common interests, you ask to be added, we interact a bit, and get to know each other better, I'll happily add you back. None of this would be necessary if I created a separate journal for fannish stuff, but that seems like way too much of a hassle; I have enough trouble staying on top of one LJ!
I sometimes defriend people; it's not personal, and it's never intended to create drama. If we just don't interact, I don't feel comfortable with essentially having my underwear hanging out there for everyone to see. *g* Bottomline: this is my journal, and I have to do what makes me feel most comfortable and most safe.
Any questions, let me know. :)