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can i just raise my hand and say i'm proud to be the only person (thus far) who also checked "genitalia? what is this genitalia of which you speak?" score.

however, i do think this is a really interesting topic. to be honest, i think the key thing is to be tasteful. i think some terms are just way to graphic and explicit for me to take seriously when i read a fic, and when i do i am immediately turned off by it. you know what i mean? i think a lot of the times it can be really unnecessary to go into such explicit detail about a dude's "throbbing member" or whatever. at the same time, it really depends on the author and the story. but i guess my bottom line is that the key is tastefulness. and somehow being classy even in the face of such a graphic act.

As English is not my first languaje, I don´t really know which words sound rude, or childish, or just weird. But I have read tons of smut and, well, I do know what I like to read in M-fics, so I wanted to answer your poll and collaborate, so to speak :-)

I found it very interesting! Great initiative! :-)

Being a fan of The Vagina Monologues, I have no problem with the word 'cunt'. But in fic, it can be a bit iffy. It's one of those words that only suits a very small percentage of characters in fandom. I can't imagine it in any of the fandoms I read/write.

Anyway, fun poll! As an ex-smut writer, I found the results fascinating.

I think it all depends on the character. I don't watch Bones so can't comment on what applies to characters in that fandom. My fic writing/reading is in Buffyverse and Battlestar Galactica (new), where my favorite characters usually are fairly edgy females who own their sexuality to a great degree. So I prefer words that aren't fluffy euphamisms or sound like the author is too sexually repressed to use words that the character would use. On the flip-side, writing a high-school Buffy fic where she's going on an on about her pussy also throws me out because I think high school Buffy was too sexually inexperienced and also too much a product of her cultural upbringing (mirroring American culture at the time) to casually use a word that most high school girls of her generation would not. Also, I think it's important to note that I don't just mean using words in dialogue that the character would use, but also being consistent in the narrative.

The one commonly used phrase for female genitalia that I can't stand is "folds", usually preceded by "moist" or "wet". That just sounds like a really chronic yeast infection waiting to happen. It particularly annoys me when "folds" is used to refer to Starbuck's genitalia because of the reasons stated above-- brings the author's language hang-ups into a story that the character would not have.

In closing, I like the word "sex" to refer to either an erection or a lubricated vagina. It's unisex, it isn't prejorative, it isn't too clinical, and it isn't too slangy.

I write in the voice of the character. It doesn't matter what my personal opinion is.

If I writing Buffy back in HS she's not going to be able to say any words. If I'm writing Spike, he's going to say cunt and twat. It's all about the character.

The number one reason I don't write smut is the groan factor associated with the words used to describe the 'parts'. I agree with the original comment that 'erection' is a great choice but everything else... insert groan here.

Answered the poll .
I never commented on your fics . bad bad bad brennanite . I should have as I read them all ....... ;)
Will do better from now on .
Thank you ;)

Very intriguing, L! Interesting to see the prefs of all the authors I love. Honestly, for boys (Booth :)) i'm not picky, but GOD do I hate the word cunt. Ew, ew, ew. I was raised in a place where that was the most derogatory thing you could say about a woman. Hate it. If it's used in a fic, I'll still read it if it's a good story, but I cringe a little. I'm not a huge fan of tits either. Kinda crude. My older Godsister always says that she doesn't like smut writing because the phrase "moist honey pot" freaks her out. Me too. :)

Oh, I've had this conversation many times... possibly in short with you, once. I understand the influence of context but some words... I just can't deal with.

I remember in primary school, we'd say dick. Now I just can't use the word, unless as an insult. But penis in fic? Only works in very secial circumstances. Like, it would have to be PERFECT context for me to forgive a writer for saying penis. It's just so.... BLAH!! Arousal I can deal with, but not past the point of nekkidness. It's a great word, like hardness, to use when the pants are still on. But once they're off, let's switch to cock or erection. It just seems... silly once you can see the appendage in question.

AGH! AGH! MEMBER! NO! NEVER SUBJECT ME TO THAT WORD IN FIC EVER EVER PLEASE! Ugh.

Same with sac. I mean, I don't have much of a problem with any of those testicular words :P but sac makes me think of spider's eggs and icky things.

The word 'vagina' makes me think of primary school again, kida being smart. Cunt, I'm not sure about. Sometimes it works, sometimes it's really jarring. I'm trying to get over the shock it gives me, because I'm doing the whole 'reclaim the meaning' thing because I don't like that it's the worst insult ever and also a part of my body. Like, wtf? But still, sometimes it doesn't fit.

I HAVE ISSUES WITH THE WORD PUSSY! I mean, how STUPID is it? Pussy. Like it's a creature. And it's so ridiculous. If someone said to me, no matter how attractive they were and at what stage of the proceedings we were in, ANYTHING to do with 'my pussy', I would leave. I mean, guh? I want to yell at the world. QUIT ALIENATING ME FROM MY GIRL BITS WITH YOUR STUPID NAMES!

Wetness can work but it's a bit of a cop out and a lot of the time, it just makes you roll your eyes.

Folds, I understand, is a necessary term. I mean, it's not great but it's not awful and it's at least anatomical without being 'lips' which just says badly narrated porn to me.

Inside her is fine but sounds stupid when paired up eith the words arousal and hardness. It's like "Guys, you're writing smut. You have to use at least one explicit term. Save yourselves and make it 'cock' if you want."

Between her legs is also fine but sort of the same. Better to use in describing unfulfilled-as-yet arousal.

Juncture of her thighs is a phrase that has been abused and is now the fanfic bike and should be ignored as such.

Where she needed him/her most and most secret place just make me snort and screw up my face. At least you didn't mention 'core' or 'sex'. Blagh!

I *LOVE* that you only mentioned 'clit'. None of this other horrible bullshit. Seriously, nothing but clit will do. Nub? No. Pearl?? God no. "Bundle of nerves"? OH GOD KILL ME NOW! And 'button' doesn't even get a mention. Just... ew.

I'm ashamed of most of our words.

As long as you don't say 'quivering alabaster mounds' for breasts, I am so cool. Anything else is fine.

Erection is a nice word.

So far, you haven't fucked things up so's I'd notice (and I notice these things as the above may have indicated). Good on you for polling!

LOL... overuse cock. Oh, you win. You win a LOT.

What a nice way to start my day!