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Huge hugs and thanks to you all. This has been a tough week, with no end in sight, and your virtual support helps. No answers yet: re: DH's seizure. Still doing tests. In the meantime, because of state law, he now can't drive for the next 3 months. That is a long time. He is on Keppra, which is making him sleep most of the day and act like the world's biggest asshole the remainder of the day. The irritability and drowsiness are known side effects of the medication, but he has to keep to taking it until we know something more. I can't leave him alone, and I can't trust him to watch M. alone because of the drowsiness and inability to focus. As you might imagine, this does pose logistical challenges.

My mom was released from the ER the same day she went in, with orders to stay home from work for at least 3 days, and to follow up with her primary doctor and a neurologist. She has an appointment with her doc today, and one with the neurologist on Monday. Apart from some weakness, she says she feels ok. She hasn't had any further dizziness/balance issues or vomiting. *crosses fingers*

I don't know when life is going to resume any sense of normalcy. Happy Effing Holidays. *g* (I know many people are in much worse situations, so I say that mostly tongue-in-cheek. Things can always be worse. We haven't hit rock-bottom yet.)

Thanks for listening. I can't get online much right now, so individual replies will come later. Hope you are all doing well,

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rachg82

2010-12-18 05:41 pm (UTC)

Oy, that sounds so incredibly stressful. Huge hugs. I take Topamax for migraines, but I know it was used as an anti-epilepsy drug originally (and though it's not considered as efficient as some of the newer ones for that, some people still prefer it); it does have side effects, but it doesn't turn me into an asshole or make me sleep all day. Maybe you could bring that up to the doc?

bea_tricks

2010-12-19 09:32 am (UTC)

oc, there's the possibility that these specific side effects would just be in the adjustment period for him. but even if they're temporary, the severity might suggest trying another med; there are a number of other ones the doc should be able to suggest. i haven't heard much about keppra myself. i've taken dilantin before, and am on lamictal now (which rocks my socks in re: side effects). obviously, the doc will want to see what's going on with the tests before anything else.

big hugs for you! hang in there.

tempertemper

2010-12-18 05:47 pm (UTC)

Oh honey, I can't imagine how stressful this all must be. I wish I lived down the road and could come help practically but instead super ((((hugs)))) and all my love ♥

a_mistletoe

2010-12-18 06:16 pm (UTC)

Courage in all things. Virtual hugs and buckets of love to you and your family.

When I had my seizure, which was related to a brain tumour, I couldn't drive for 18 months. I only had the one but still had to take the medication for a year. That all sounds terribly gloomy, but the scan revealed the problem straight away . Not knowing is much more stressful.

Keep your chin up!

rosie_not_rose

2010-12-18 06:28 pm (UTC)

I'm really sorry you've got this lump of stresses all at once. It must really suck. Hoping for good news. =)

labsquint

2010-12-18 06:35 pm (UTC)

Hugs, hon. I can only imagine the stress this is causing. He can't drive, he can't be depended on to watch M and he's causing you stress because of his bitchiness. My advice, let him sleep if he's sleepy because it makes your life easier. But you, essentially, just became a mother of three. You need help because the early months of pregnancy are tough and you just became a one man show. I wish there was something that we could do for you from here. If there is anything, please let us know.

And your mom on top of it; the one person you'd have really helping right now, if she could and she can't. Gads.

Now is the time to do what you can to make your own life easier. Get Molly Maid in to clean the house, eat more prepared meals, order your groceries on line and have them delivered, call in favours, and lower your expectations. If M's clothes aren't cleaned as often as you'd like, so be it. It's not going to matter in the long run.

Good luck, hon, and please let us know if there is anything that we can do for you...

kinseyjo

2010-12-18 07:19 pm (UTC)

oh sweetie. my friend ian always says "it could be worse. you could be on fire." :) i'm so proud of you for having such a positive outlook, but that shit sucks, babe. let's be honest. if you can't grouse w/your friends, who can you? ;) love you lots, thinking of you often. wishing DH a speedy recovery!!

xoxo
k

limone1

2010-12-18 07:57 pm (UTC)

*Hugs you back* I wish there was more I could do.

One of my college professors used to say "No one said life is fair." She was right. All sorts of shitty things happening to you at once is not fair. And while you are there for M, your DH and your mother, you are in our thoughts.

leviathan101

2010-12-18 08:25 pm (UTC)

I don't know how you are coping with such a difficult situation but big HUGS to you! You'll get through it. Also sending many best wishes.

amilyn

2010-12-18 08:50 pm (UTC)

Oh, *hugs*. What a mess. Do you have friends who can come in? Siblings? Anyone to help you?

*hugs*

sheytune

2010-12-19 12:23 am (UTC)

I wish there was something I could do to help. Like others have said, adjust your expectations, focus on the really important stuff, and let the rest go.

a2zmom

2010-12-19 12:46 am (UTC)

I am so sorry that you're going through this. It's stressful enough when you don't know the cause of the seisure but even worse when the medicine has such bad side effects.

I hope things get better soon.

siapom

2010-12-19 02:59 am (UTC)

*hugs* That sounds like such a stressful situation. (And I know a little something about dealing with someone who turns into an asshat on medication. It's awful at the best of times.) I sincerely hope they find out what caused the seizure sooner rather than later.

makd

2010-12-19 06:53 am (UTC)

Oh, S. I'm so very sorry to learn that you and your family are going through this. :::hugs:::

Also: the side effects can be just as bad sometimes as the illness!!

I'll say a prayer - if that's okay with you- that everyone is better ASAP.

more :::hugs:::

pinktealeaves

2010-12-19 11:46 am (UTC)

*hugs you back*

I know many people are in worst situation, but this is YOUR situation and you're free to be stressed and pissed. I'm sure this will be over soon, but in the meantime, we're here to listen whenever you need it.

I'll send you all good thoughts and love.

Mwah!!

lizook12

2010-12-19 11:43 pm (UTC)

Oh man, could there be a worse possible time for this all to be happening? Probably, but I'm hard pressed to think of one off the top of my head. In any case, I'm sending you extra thoughts and love and wishing I lived just a little closer so I could maybe take M off your hands for even just an afternoon.

Try your best to keep that positive outlook, hun. ♥ ♥ ♥

ilovewolves

2010-12-20 12:26 am (UTC)

I hate when life kicks you and rolls right over you at what's supposed to be happy times. I'm really sorry to hear you're having a rough time. *hugs* Hope it all gets better soon.

dabhug

2010-12-20 02:04 am (UTC)

Oh, dear S. I wish I were closer so I could come over and watch M. for you so you could lock yourself in your bathroom for as long as you needed.

All of my strength and love and hugs to you and your family.

melissasdavid

2010-12-21 04:19 am (UTC)

Just sending hugs... a lot of them. I'm soo damn sorry everything so bad right now, I hope hope hope it gets better mad soon... xxoo

alias_jems

2010-12-21 11:25 pm (UTC)

eeek, just catching up and god sounds like you are being dragged through the mill right now *hugs*

hope the news is better for both the dh and your mum.

thinking of you

xxx

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