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Hugs and thanks for all the good words, thoughts, and advice you guys have sent our way. I appreciate them so very much! We have a good support system here, but there are still just things you have to go through in moments like this, you know?  I am so tired I can't even articulate it.

Mini-update: My mother seems to be OK, though the neurologist is sending her for an MRI just in case, and has asked her to start taking low-dose aspirin.

DH has had his MRI and 24-hour EEG; his follow-up appointment with the neurologist is tomorrow. His mood has improved, so I think he's slowly adjusting to the Keppra, but he is still pretty sleepy. We are hoping we'll have SOME answers tomorrow, but the likely outcome is that we WON'T know anything more. There in lies the rub. Or it could be something horrible -- like a brain tumor. I don't know. We are living minute to minute right now. Time flows differently when someone is ill (or potentially ill). Days drip drip drip by, like water from a partially-open faucet.

I am feeling pretty burnt right now; like I am running on fumes. But M. is a child and I have an obligation to her to keep moving even when it's the last thing I want to do. Hopefully relief is around the corner. We'll see. 

Thank you again, to new friends and old, and much love. I hope I can repay the favor if/when you need it. <3

*hugs* *lends you some energy*

So sorry for all the stress. As far as I'm concerned, there's not much worse than NOT knowing these kinds of things, b/c most of our minds LOVE to hang out in worst-case-scenario land. Trying to brace yourself just in case, I guess. But that stuff can drive you crazy, and it consumes your energy much faster.

We will ALL be pulling for least-upsetting of all the possible things, and also, just for the security of knowing exactly wtf you and your family are dealing with.

Take care, bb. A lot of people love you. <3

*mwah* Thanks, J. Yes, NOT knowing sucks because then your imagination goes wild.

How are YOU? Did you speak with your doc?

*hugs you back* Thank you very much. ♥

I take care of my invalid father-in-law so I don't have a lot of spare energy myself, HOWEVER, as all good fairy grandmothers should, I have advice. God invented friends, with and without children, to help at times like these. I forget just how old M is, but I had single friends who would love to keep any of my 3 for a few hours. And when you get those few hours, NAP! There is little as restorative as sleep. Even if your mind keeps running like a hamster in a wheel, the body finds rest. And the more rested, restored you are, the more you have to give DH and M. Do not be hesitant to take "mental health" moments. IF you run out then they have no one. Nap whenever M does. DO NOT DO DISHES AND CLEAN HOUSE! God does not send an angel to check on your housekeeping skills! (Mine? Maybe.) We always try to keep everything "just the way it has always been" in these times, mistakenly trying to pretend just for a moment that our lives aren't turned totally upside down. Learn to walk on the ceiling instead. M would be just as happy with mom lying on the floor while she played around mom (and over mom). Given a chance even small children do an excellent job of entertaining themselves. Childrens memories are short at this time of life. The things she will remember are that mommy loves her, specifics will fade. When he can, let DH spend that time "on the floor" with her. The feeling of being loved never ends.
God grant you and yours whatever you need most to help you through this time. I think of you and keep you in my prayers.

This advice is very true. When my best friend's son was in the hospital (hospitalized three times!) after a surgery, I kept her daughter overnight twice and spent an afternoon with her after school. I helped her with her homework and took her to talent show rehearsal. I did her dishes for her and cleaned her house as there had just been a birthday party before the whole ordeal. Depend on your friends who are willing and able to help you.

*sending big hugs your way* I am glad that things seem to be looking good for your mom and hope things continue on a good path for your DH.

Thanks for keeping us updated. I'm very happy your mom is better, and I hope you guys get good news tomorrow.


*big hugs* Thank you so much, G. ♥

Mad love & hugs.

The running on fumes thing? Is where I have been at for while...

I hope and wish that you get an amazing outcome, and that DH is OK, more than OK. and your Mom too.

I know what you mean though about the time flowing differently... like the days are passing so fucking quickly even though the hours you spend living them can seem to drag on forever.

I'm not gonna burden you with my crap, just know I get it. I too have a child and she's the one I have to at least appear OK for even when everything is falling apart.

More hugs & good wishes.

Oh, honey, I didn't realize you were going through similar crap. :( I'm truly sorry to hear it. May I ask what's going on? It's not a burden; things are slowly righting themselves here, and I'm pulling myself together.

*bug hugs*

Kids keep us going even when we don't want to; we owe it to them. It's a blessing and a curse, as I'm sure you know! Whatever challenges you're facing in your own life, I hope you get the help you need to face them. ♥

I'm glad to hear that things with mom look good. Just-in-case testing is also a good thing because it's proactive.

Glad to see that DH's testing is done and you're getting the results tomorrow. Hopefully you will get some definitive answers tomorrow, although the brain tumor is a no go, so fingers crossed it's something minor.

But M. is a child and I have an obligation to her to keep moving even when it's the last thing I want to do.

But if you get sick the whole works grinds to a halt. Remember, sitting for an extra movie in front of the TV won't scar her for life and will give you a chance to rest. It also doesn't make you a bad mother. This is an extreme situation, so do what you have to do to make your life easier.

Hugs, hon...

Thank you, J. I appreciate your advice and good thoughts. ♥

I hope the news is all good tomorrow and the crisis is over.

*hugs* And thank you. ♥ The crisis does appear to be over, but there will be some ongoing things we'll need to adjust to. BTW, Happy Belated Hanukkah. I hope the holidays were good to you and your family, and that your health continues to be good as well.

I'm sorry it has taken me so long to let you know I've been thinking about you. I know it's so draining when you deal with doctors and illness - ans especially the waiting. Always here if you need an ear, sweetie.


I know you know, my dear, and I appreciate your empathy. There is nothing to apologize for. ♥. Thank you for your positive thoughts and the offer to listen.

Edited at 2010-12-27 02:19 pm (UTC)

Just another comment to let you know I'm thinking of you, hun. Hope things go well tomorrow ♥

*mwah* Thank you, Liz. I'm grateful for your good thoughts. ♥

*hugs* I'll keep the positive thoughts flowing for you! And I hope tomorrow goes okay.

*hugs you back* Thank you very much. ♥ How has your health been recently? Any resolution?


i wish i could come babysit or take you to lunch or SOMETHING. mad love to you sweetie. hang in there.

*hugs* Thanks, honey. Your thoughts are plenty. :)

My offer still stands, hon. Anytime. I meant it.

Thinking of you often, and with much hope.

*big hugs* You are a sweetheart, and I do love you for it. Thank you. ♥ Things are OK; I'm about to post a more detailed update. Thank you for your message, and I'm sorry I haven't replied to it. I will call you sometime just to hear your lovely voice! :) It is funny that we all "talk" so much here and on Twitter, but not all of us have spoken on the phone or Skype or whatever. It's an odd age in which we live, H.

Sending good vibes and hugs your way <333