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Heads up on friending/defriending

I've never really had a policy on friending and defriending; it didn't seem necessary because the majority of my posts were fannish in nature.  If people friended me, I automatically friended them back, and if they defriended me, hey, that was ok too.  I never took those things personally, and I still don't.  Truthfully I was never really active on LJ until 2007, though I've had an account since 2003. 

Now I post almost every day, and an increasing number of my posts have personal content.  Writing helps me process my life, and I'm finding it keeps me healthy.  For me it's too much of a headache to have one journal for fic, a separate one for personal ramblings, and one for music posts, etc. etc.  Those things are all a part of who I am, and it's easier for me to just have them in one place rather than make some kind of artificial distinction. 

All of which leads to this:  there are a couple people I friended after they friended me, but we've had literally zero interaction.  I don't keep track of how many comments a given person has left me.  Life is short and busy, and I know there are many other things that rank higher in priority than commenting in peoples' LJs.  That said, I do have a general sense of the people I interact with here.  If we've never interacted and I'm aware of that, I'm going to defriend you.  Maybe you're just here for fic, which is fine.  I don't plan to lock my fic posts.  Some people like to read anonymously--for whatever reason--and that is ok.  You won't be missing much by not having access to my f-locked personal posts.  You're probably not even interested in them.  :)  If I defriend you, and you'd like me to add you back for some reason, comment here, email me, or message me. 

Also, going forward, if you friend me and then never comment or say hello, I most probably won't friend you back.  This is not supposed to be some big, dramatic thing.  I'm simply no longer comfortable having certain posts viewable by people who are essentially invisible to me.   And yes, I know that privacy is an illusion when it comes to the 'net.

One last thing and then I'm done.  I promise.  *g*  You don't need to ask my permission to friend me.  However,  I don't always notice when someone's added me, so if you want me to add you back, please comment or message me in some fashion.  I promise you I'm generally easygoing and approachable.  I enjoy the interactivity of LiveJournal; that's why I'm here. 

ETA:  I swear I'm not a drama queen.  Actually, I generally hate being the center of attention and much prefer to observe. :)

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I definitely agree. Sadly, I've actually had people on LJ that pitched a fit because I was too busy in my own RL to comment on anyone including their LJ lol. They literally pitched a huge fit and made it too dramatic. I hate drama and that was something that bothered me.

That's the point of LJ having fun. :)

That's the point of LJ having fun. :)


I try to keep the drama on the page rather than in my interactions with people. Believe me, I don't harbor any delusions that peoples' lives revolve around me. Frankly, I'm just not that interesting. *g*

Lovely icon, btw. :)

I was like "oh come on now... " I mean on my FP for LJ if people give me a reason why I should've not defriended them and it involves RL issues I'll add em back because I myself know with college and RL I get really busy and so I know how it goes...

People these days *le sigh*

And thankee... :D I like yours as well. Ive always loved that photo and I added you as a friend.

Seriously??? Thats a bit weird.. pfft.. if you dont get a comment.. who cares.. its like real life.. if no one has an opinion, they wont say anything.. lol :P

Seriously. And outside of LJ we had spoke here and there but very casual like one of those IM's where you're like "Hey how are you?" and that's all the convo is and maybe a couple times you speak of fan things but that's it.

Lol.. I feel the same way. I was just like "hey not my loss, that'd be yours cause I'm ubber cool" Rofl.. JK :D

lmao! totally :P

"hey not my loss, that'd be yours cause I'm ubber cool"

exactly! there loss :P

:P I'm a dork ignore that lol. :D But yeah I was like *shrug* Whatev...It just seemed even more ridiculous when the lady is like almost 30 lol.

lol.. funny as!

oh..im going to friend you too:P hope you dont mind :)

Lol.. It was interesting nonetheless. No I definitely do not mind the friendnig. Go right ahead... :)

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