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Heads up on friending/defriending
L'ecrivez
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I've never really had a policy on friending and defriending; it didn't seem necessary because the majority of my posts were fannish in nature.  If people friended me, I automatically friended them back, and if they defriended me, hey, that was ok too.  I never took those things personally, and I still don't.  Truthfully I was never really active on LJ until 2007, though I've had an account since 2003. 

Now I post almost every day, and an increasing number of my posts have personal content.  Writing helps me process my life, and I'm finding it keeps me healthy.  For me it's too much of a headache to have one journal for fic, a separate one for personal ramblings, and one for music posts, etc. etc.  Those things are all a part of who I am, and it's easier for me to just have them in one place rather than make some kind of artificial distinction. 

All of which leads to this:  there are a couple people I friended after they friended me, but we've had literally zero interaction.  I don't keep track of how many comments a given person has left me.  Life is short and busy, and I know there are many other things that rank higher in priority than commenting in peoples' LJs.  That said, I do have a general sense of the people I interact with here.  If we've never interacted and I'm aware of that, I'm going to defriend you.  Maybe you're just here for fic, which is fine.  I don't plan to lock my fic posts.  Some people like to read anonymously--for whatever reason--and that is ok.  You won't be missing much by not having access to my f-locked personal posts.  You're probably not even interested in them.  :)  If I defriend you, and you'd like me to add you back for some reason, comment here, email me, or message me. 

Also, going forward, if you friend me and then never comment or say hello, I most probably won't friend you back.  This is not supposed to be some big, dramatic thing.  I'm simply no longer comfortable having certain posts viewable by people who are essentially invisible to me.   And yes, I know that privacy is an illusion when it comes to the 'net.

One last thing and then I'm done.  I promise.  *g*  You don't need to ask my permission to friend me.  However,  I don't always notice when someone's added me, so if you want me to add you back, please comment or message me in some fashion.  I promise you I'm generally easygoing and approachable.  I enjoy the interactivity of LiveJournal; that's why I'm here. 

ETA:  I swear I'm not a drama queen.  Actually, I generally hate being the center of attention and much prefer to observe. :)
 
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*pouts* I've been defriended. -lol-

I've been meaning to leave a post, but I never got around to it until today. >__<; To be honest, I don't remember how we originally friended each other. 0_o I think it was during my fanart days (which feels like ages ago). I've only recently started reading LJ again, and I really took a likely to you weekly Wednesday posts. :) Oh, which reminds me, I should add mine..*scuttles over to reply* I also enjoy your honest postings about your family. I guess I'm a nosey-busy-body, but I always appreciate it when my LJ friends start posting things about their family and their life. Makes you feel more connected. Reminds you that there's an actual person with problems and life issues behind the username. So, yea, I hope, if you don't mind, that you'll keep me friended. At least for the Wednesday smiles. :)

Yennie! I defriended you because I didn't think you were around anymore. :) I was just cleaning house, but since you're here, I'll add you again. Yes, we met through our fanart. Remember Touchstone, and Thia, and...? My god, that seems like a long time ago.

I don't think you're a busybody if you enjoy reading my personal posts; I love reading others' personal entries too. Because I'm interested in people, not just fannish pursuits. It's always interesting to see what life throws at people and how they deal with those things. Reading those posts absolutely reminds us there's a real person with real feelings and issues behind the username.

Welcome back. I do so hope that you are happy and well. Please don't feel pressured to comment. I know life gets busy. :)

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