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Heads up on friending/defriending

I've never really had a policy on friending and defriending; it didn't seem necessary because the majority of my posts were fannish in nature.  If people friended me, I automatically friended them back, and if they defriended me, hey, that was ok too.  I never took those things personally, and I still don't.  Truthfully I was never really active on LJ until 2007, though I've had an account since 2003. 

Now I post almost every day, and an increasing number of my posts have personal content.  Writing helps me process my life, and I'm finding it keeps me healthy.  For me it's too much of a headache to have one journal for fic, a separate one for personal ramblings, and one for music posts, etc. etc.  Those things are all a part of who I am, and it's easier for me to just have them in one place rather than make some kind of artificial distinction. 

All of which leads to this:  there are a couple people I friended after they friended me, but we've had literally zero interaction.  I don't keep track of how many comments a given person has left me.  Life is short and busy, and I know there are many other things that rank higher in priority than commenting in peoples' LJs.  That said, I do have a general sense of the people I interact with here.  If we've never interacted and I'm aware of that, I'm going to defriend you.  Maybe you're just here for fic, which is fine.  I don't plan to lock my fic posts.  Some people like to read anonymously--for whatever reason--and that is ok.  You won't be missing much by not having access to my f-locked personal posts.  You're probably not even interested in them.  :)  If I defriend you, and you'd like me to add you back for some reason, comment here, email me, or message me. 

Also, going forward, if you friend me and then never comment or say hello, I most probably won't friend you back.  This is not supposed to be some big, dramatic thing.  I'm simply no longer comfortable having certain posts viewable by people who are essentially invisible to me.   And yes, I know that privacy is an illusion when it comes to the 'net.

One last thing and then I'm done.  I promise.  *g*  You don't need to ask my permission to friend me.  However,  I don't always notice when someone's added me, so if you want me to add you back, please comment or message me in some fashion.  I promise you I'm generally easygoing and approachable.  I enjoy the interactivity of LiveJournal; that's why I'm here. 

ETA:  I swear I'm not a drama queen.  Actually, I generally hate being the center of attention and much prefer to observe. :)

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Hi. *waves* I've read all of the B/B fic you've written (except for Truth Serum, which I'm about to read now), & have enjoyed it all very much. I suppose I'd be considered an 'anonymous' reader, because, while I love to read fic, I can only think of so many ways to say I like someones work without sounding redundant. And, while I read my flist every day, I haven't been updating or commenting nearly as often as I did when I signed up for LJ in 2006. So if you feel you need to defriend me, that's fine, I'll still keep an eye out for your fic, but I would really like to get to know you a little better (either through LJ or IM). :)

Hi there. :) I'm glad you've enjoyed my stories, and I don't mind that you haven't commented on all of them. No big deal. Seriously. We've interacted before; I know that. That's good enough for me.

I'm not cutting anyone because they haven't commented "enough." People have lives; believe me, I know this. *g* It's just that there are some people I have had literally zero or almost zero interaction with, but they're on my f-list and therefore are able to view my f-locked entries. I'm guessing that most of them are only interested in the fic anyway, so they won't care that I'm defriending them.

It wasn't my intention to make a big deal out of all this. I just thought I'd post a blanket disclaimer so people would understand why they'd been defriended, if that happened. And if other people trickle through here and friend me for fic but never once contact me in some fashion, they'll know why I haven't automatically added them back. Just wanted to be straightforward about what I was doing.

So no worries. If we catch each other here on IM, that's great. If not, that's just fine too. No pressure. I'm easy. (Ok, maybe that didn't sound right. *g* )

Edited at 2008-02-01 05:00 pm (UTC)

I know you weren't trying to make a big deal out of it. :) I just suck @ leaving comments. Maybe your being easy didn't sound right, but I won't tell anyone :p

*Everything to Lose is what I'm about to read, read Truth Serum last night...sorry, I'm a bit of a scatter brain*

Edited at 2008-02-01 05:15 pm (UTC)

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