No need to be anybody but oneself. (only_more_love) wrote,
No need to be anybody but oneself.

It's time.

There are some new folks on my f-list, and since I don't remember doing a post like this before, I think it's time. 

Re:  "friending/defriending":
  • Here in my journal, every day is defriending amnesty day.  That means you -- the general you -- should feel free to defriend me whenever you want.  No explanations required.  I don't take friending/defriending personally.  Actually, I think the term "friending" at LiveJournal is a terrible misnomer.  Some of the people on my list have become friends, some are acquaintances, some are lurkers or silent readers, and with some of them I have no idea why they added me.  :)
  • I like to talk to new people; don't be shy. 
  • You should also feel free to add me.  However, unless I know you offline or from another place on the 'net, I will not automatically add you back.  The reason for that is very simple:  I do post some personal content in this journal, so I like to have a sense of who's potentially reading. I don't always notice when someone's added me.  If you want me to add you back, just drop me a note. I add people at my discretion.
  • I do make occasional use of LiveJournal's filtering capabilities.  That means that some of my personal posts are not viewable by every single person on my list. 
  • I generally leave a note before adding random people, but if I forgot to do that and added you anyway, please know that it's probably because I found something interesting about your posts. 
Why I'm here at LiveJournal:
  • To share my own fanworks and be exposed to others' fanworks.
  • To post my thoughts, analyses, and squee about fannish obsessions and life in general.
  • To vent.
  • To be a part of communities of people who share similar interests.
  • To talk to people and share in their interests and personal journeys.
  • To exchange ideas, debate, disagree, and be involved in passionate but well-reasoned discussions.  Not to fight with people, call them names, or threaten them.  You won't often find me fighting with anyone in my journal or in others' journals.  I believe you can respectfully challenge the substance of someone's opinion without insulting that person or needlessly personalizing the discussion. 
  • To read and write and talk about both.
A few things about how I perceive the world:
  • I see a lot of grey in the world now.  When I was 16, I saw many things in black and white.  At 30, I see things I didn't see at 16.  I've since had life experiences I didn't have at 16.
  • I don't hate many things, but I detest the notion that if you are critical of something, that makes you a "hater" or a "bad fan."  To me, that's as preposterous as saying that you don't love your family and friends if you dislike or disagree with any of their actions or words.
  • I believe in thinking critically.  Passion is good.  Feelings are good.  Knee-jerk reactions are not so good.  I'll be 31 in August; I try my best to conduct myself like an adult and not indulge in fits of drama.  Sometimes I succeed.
  • I'm generally slow to anger, but if someone bites me, I just might bite back.
  • I'm thoughtful -- full of thoughts. 
  • I know I'm not perfect, and I don't expect perfection from others.
  • I'm interested in people and what motivates them, frightens them, uplifts them. 
  • As I recently said to trilliane, I am often aware of how fortunate I am because of the time and place in which I live; I don't think the freedom to speak, dissent, and yes, even laugh, can be taken seriously enough. A different spin of the wheel and I could live in a place where to speak is to risk death.
  • I laugh a lot -- at my own faults and foibles and those of others.  It's one of the ways I process and cope with the world; life is long.
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